Most of us go through life focusing on what we perceive as negative in ourselves. We tell stories of our unhappy childhood, bad times in relationships and shortcomings in ourselves. We believe in the strength and competence of others, but seemingly never in our own.
It we stop and really notice ourselves we will find that there is more to us than we often give ourselves credit for. Everything we experience is an interpretation. Most of us are conditioned to interpret occurrences in our lives as negative. We can reframe any negative interpretation into a positive one – even if it is to see it as a learning experience.
Many of us continually beat ourselves up for not doing or being enough. Take a moment to stop and think about what you give to the people and life around you. Don’t think about what you’re not doing right. Look instead at all you do that is a blessing. Don’t underestimate the things you perceive as simple or ordinary. Imagine for a moment that you are great just as you are.
Feel the relief this brings! Now open to the possibility that this is not a daydream. It’s true! Believe it! It is who you really are.
We all can become quite remarkable when we start thinking that we can do things. When we believe in ourselves we have the first secret of success. We can only rise as high as we allow ourselves to think.
The movie called “The Kid” starring Bruce Willis is a good example of how reframing our childhood stories can change our lives. In this movie an unhappy and unliked image consultant gets a second shot at life when an eight year old version of himself mysteriously appears. Together they took a journey into the past to reframe the moments that defined his present life. He was able to see the incidents and circumstances that formed his perception of himself and was then able to coach his 8 year old self to make different choices, thus reframing his conception of himself and his entire life from then on. We all need to revisit our childhood and reframe some of those defining moments.
One of the simplest ways to change our thoughts about ourselves is to start reframing some of the old negative stories we tell about ourselves. Practice telling the same stories but with a positive spin. Practice in your mind seeing yourself winning and conquering. And you will win.
In love and light,